Things that your guests don't really care about

Okay, time to get candid about a few things. When you are planning an event, there is this insane amount of pressure (hello PInterest and DIY blogs, I'm looking at you) to make sure that every wedding is full of unique and interactive things to do/drink/eat/give. Ugh.  It's so much pressure. I mean, if you like sweating all the small stuff, have at it.  But if you'd rather spend your time on other things, there are some items that you can just skip.  Because most guests won't notice these things. Seriously. 

  1. Programs. You know what these are? Paper fans. Something to glance at idly during the ceremony. Not necessary at all. If you have to have these, only print about half the number you think you need.
  2. Guestbooks. Only about 25% of your guests will sign this.  And I'm being generous here. And where does this go after the wedding? In a box for storage. Time to retire this custom.
  3. The endless cocktail hour. After an hour, guests start getting a little antsy and they want to find their table and sit down.  Longer cocktail hours are a big help in allowing more time for pictures, but really think about your guest list and whether a longer cocktail hour would be best.  
  4. Favors.  No one and I mean NO ONE wants a seed packet, a teeny little picture frame or a bottle opener with a heart on it.  These favors get swept in the garbage at night.  If you really feel like you have to give a favor, consider food or booze.  Like a donut on the way out or a mini-champagne.  Or make a donation to a favorite charity in lieu of a favor. Just say no to little gifts.
  5. Too many activities.  This includes the formal speeches.  Guests want to be able to relax and enjoy your wedding, not be constantly directing their attention somewhere else and moved from interactive activities to way too many speeches in a row to a dance presentation etc.  It's okay to have some unstructured time during the event.
  6. Hand-calligraphed escort cards.  About two people will notice.  One of these people will be your parent.  Don't bother.

If these things are important to you, then do them. But if you are ambivalent, think about things from the guest's perspective. Think about what you remember from a wedding that you attended and the moments that you enjoyed. Simple is better. And easier.  I'll talk about the things that guests really do care about in an upcoming post soon.